| erfect evening out with the girls ends in meeting a | | | | and surrender before the game has even begun, |
| great guy and actually getting his phone number, | | | | do you think he is going to want to play? No. |
| and giving him yours, right? Well of course! You | | | | Thirdly - you are in demand, baby! You need to |
| then do your secret little victory dance while he is | | | | show him, or let him believe that you are in |
| not looking, and pride yourself on being strong and | | | | demand, you are a sought after item and you are |
| walking away with only a kiss and a smile. But | | | | not going to be on the shelf for long! Do not, |
| then - the sinking feeling begins as the wait | | | | under any circumstance, let him think that you |
| prolongs. Should YOU call him? How long do you | | | | are sitting by the phone eagerly awaiting his call. |
| wait? What if he never calls? | | | | And while you very well MAY BE sitting there |
| As a woman you are entitled to certain things. | | | | waiting for him to call - don't you DARE pick up |
| One is the right to change your mind at any given | | | | that phone the first time he does! You are OUT! |
| moment. The other is the right to RECEIVE the | | | | You are having fun, somewhere, NOT thinking of |
| first call. So let me make that clear. You do NOT | | | | him. If you have to duct tape the phone to the |
| make the first call. Men chase - not women. | | | | wall - do not answer it. Wait a minimum of three |
| Actually, most men LIKE to be the pursuer in a | | | | hours before calling him back. Better yet, wait until |
| relationship. Women perceived in the roll of the | | | | the next day. His imagination will do wonders for |
| aggressor can be easily misconstrued as pushy, | | | | YOU. |
| clingy or needy. Even if that was not your intent, | | | | The fourth and final reason - allowing this to |
| it can be seen that way - so - let him call you. | | | | continue for a while - him calling you to ask you |
| Reason number two to let him be the first to call | | | | out - lets you know 100% that HE is |
| - one little word - "effort". Have you ever heard | | | | INTERESTED in you. We all know what it feels like |
| the old saying "Why buy the cow if you can have | | | | to sit there and wonder if he really is into you or |
| the milk for free?" Well, from a dating | | | | not. Well, ladies, if he keeps calling, he IS. If you |
| perspective, if you are so eager for him that you | | | | call though, every time you think about him, you |
| cannot even wait for him to call you - what does | | | | are not going to know if he is chatting just to be |
| he have to do? Nothing. He knows you want him, | | | | nice. That will breed insecurity, then more needy |
| and that gives him the advantage. | | | | behavior and - you guessed it - snuff the |
| But there also another side effect to becoming | | | | attraction. |
| the pursuer. It will completely KILL the chances of | | | | So be the woman, and let him be the man. Let |
| attraction growing, for you AND him. Like it or | | | | him call you. And if he doesn't call? His loss, honey. |
| not, dating is a game at first. It's a fun game of | | | | He was not showing you his true face then |
| chase, cowboys and Indians, cat and mouse, | | | | anyway, and you don't want that. So go and let |
| whatever you want to call it. But if you lay down | | | | him get you girl! |