Do You Know What You Want to Be When You Grow Up?

Do you remember how much fun it was inprofessional for a real opinion.
childhood, to pretend to be someone else? In theFind out what it takes to follow The Dream, and
1950's, children played cowboys and Indians,do it (voice training works). Avoid friends and
doctor or nurse and patient, housewife andfamily, who may think you are so wonderful a
working husband-and kids. Yes, it was a simplerperson that they don't want to hurt your feelings.
time back then and gender roles were set inThey might think it marvelous that you want to
stone. Women stayed home and took care offollow your dream, but come on now-isn't it a bit
the house and kids while men went to work. Ifharsh to let you go make an absolute fool of
women held a job away from home, it wasyourself in front of millions of judgmental
usually secretarial, cleaning, or childcare.viewers?
Those kids who really enjoyed playacting went onThat old joke about Carnegie Hall holds the key:
to become actors, while most of us just went onpractice, practice, practice...and "Get Real". That
to do whatever jobs we could get...or were tolddoesn't mean belting out rock ballads in your car
to get by guidance counselors and parents. Howor for your stoned friends; it means go get some
many people heard the phrase: "Get a real job!"training and work at it. If one is born without the
and went into some field that brought them noparticular talent they need to follow The Dream,
joy and no hope? Back then one had to bethen one must go get the training needed. Don't
pretty talented to get that job they had dreamedbe afraid to change your mind about your dream.
about, like acting, sports or music.Sometimes one discovers that The Dream is not
While some of the 'overnight sensations' happenedso shiny once it is lived. Sometimes what you
because of being 'discovered', a lot of it had to dothink is your passion turns out to be an idealized
with that Who You Know thing-and that hasn'tdream you picked up from someone else. One of
changed. What did change was the way talentmy colleagues went into medical school thinking
shows are conducted. American Idol and Britainshe was going to deliver babies. When she
Has Talent are good examples of that. The publicdiscovered the risks and usual late night hours,
thirst for ridicule has caused the untalented to beinterruption of life, and toll lack of sleep takes, she
put on display, for millions of people to laugh at.changed her mind.
Some of those untalented people have refused toFor myself, I have a string of degrees after my
give up their unrealistic dreams. The delusionname. While those initials I paid so much for are
shown makes good television apparently. Butmostly medical, some of them are not. Sixteen
when one looks beyond the sadness of tunelessyears of college, studying various professions,
singers telling Simon Cowell that he is wrong andshowed me that my passion is three-fold:
that they actually have a fabulous voice, theremedicine, art, and science. So what did I play at,
may be something deeper at work than just aas a child? Cowgirl, Doctor, and Mad Scientist. I
simple delusion. Perhaps those people, if they couldthink I see a pattern here.
come out of Ego for a bit, might beAfter some fifty-plus years of working at various
right...eventually.jobs and obtaining impressive initials to put after
Maybe those deluded people just need somemy name, I am still working on figuring out what I
direction to follow The Dream. If they could takewant to be when I grow up. After attending my
the raw criticism and use it to determine what40th high school reunion, I realized that most of
they would need to do to accomplish The Dream,my classmates did indeed grow up and become
they might actually be able to move into thattheir parents. Somehow, that stability missed me
blessed state of talent. If the people they hangand I continue to move through different
out with tell them the tuneless noise they haveexperiences, following my ever-changing dream.
emitted is awesome, how could they believeSo what do YOU want to be when you grow up?
otherwise? Word to the wise: go to an impartial©2010 Dr.